What do you trigger in others?

Each of us has experienced being emotionally triggered by people or situations. Sometimes we react with anger, frustration, or sadness, and later regret our response. It is easy to blame others or the environment, thinking they “made” us behave that way. But in truth, they only act as triggers. The real response always comes from within us.

WE ALL GET TRIGGERED – AND WE TRIGGER OTHERS, TOO

While we recognise how others affect us, we rarely stop to consider: What do we trigger in others? Just as someone may evoke our kindness or anger, we, too, evoke various emotions or traits in others. If we trigger someone’s joy, compassion, or peace, they feel grateful for our presence. But if we trigger anxiety, fear, or irritation, our presence creates the opposite effect.

We all play this role unknowingly. Our presence, words, or actions influence those around us, sometimes very deeply. It’s worth reflecting: What do people feel after spending time with me? This awareness alone can help us become more mindful in our relationships.

WE CAN ONLY TRIGGER WHAT WE ARE!

Many of us want to bring out the best in others. We wish to inspire kindness, love, honesty, peace, etc. However, the truth is that merely wishing is not enough. We trigger in others only what we carry inside ourselves. If I am calm, my calmness may soothe others. If I am angry, I will likely spark anger or defensiveness in others, too.

This happens naturally and without effort. A peaceful person has a peaceful effect, just as a negative person spreads negativity unintentionally. This is why inner work is so important. If we want to be a trigger for goodness, we must first evoke that goodness within.

Also, nothing outside can trigger what doesn’t already exist within us. If there is no anger or dishonesty inside, nobody can bring it out. Think of a piece of coal: if it is burning inside, even a cool breeze may trigger flames. But if it is not burning, nothing can start a fire.

BE AN EXAMPLE, NOT JUST A PREACHER

The best way to influence others is by becoming what we wish to see around us. A parent who speaks harshly cannot expect respectful children. A leader who lacks integrity cannot create honest followers. Teaching is not enough – living those teachings is the real teaching.

So the question is no longer about what others trigger in us. It is about what we are triggering in them. Let’s choose to be calm, kind, honest, and patient. Let’s become the trigger for goodness – not by rules or discipline but by our natural way of being good.

Courtesy: Rajyoga Meditation Centre, Kingston (meditation courses and counselling are offered free of charge). Get in touch via email: bkmeditation.jam@gmail.com or WhatsApp: 876-853-7848. Follow them on Instagram: rajyoga_meditation_jamaica.