Not changing is ‘choosing’

In life, we often wish for change — be it a habit, a situation, people, or a part of your life. Yet, many times, even with the genuine desire to change, we find ourselves repeating the same patterns. We end up blaming circumstances or other people, telling ourselves that change is not easy. But, have you ever paused to reflect on why this change doesn’t actually happen?

INNER STRENGTH IS LACKING

Change requires more than just good intentions. It needs strength — emotional, mental, and sometimes even spiritual. We must have clarity, courage, patience, and, above all, consistency. Often, the reason change doesn’t happen is not because we don’t want it, but because it demands more energy and effort than we’re ready to give. And so, we delay it.

But, the truth is, even mountains can be moved with consistent small steps. One little effort each day can lead to big results over time. If we don’t have the capacity to change everything at once, we can start with one small step at a time. That’s how real transformation begins.

CLARITY BRINGS GROWTH

Another major reason for delay in change is lack of clarity. Many times, we hear that a particular change would be beneficial but don’t know exactly why. What’s the purpose? What will improve if I change this? What do I truly hope to gain? When these answers are missing, we lose motivation. Ask yourself. Do I really want to change?

Not just clarity about the why but also the how is essential. Breaking change into simple, daily actions makes the process manageable. It’s important to create tiny steps that you can actually follow. These small victories build confidence and enthusiasm.

YOU ARE MASTER OF YOUR HABITS

One powerful reminder: you are not your habits. You created them, and that means you can break them too. Even if something has become second nature, with awareness and willpower, you can let it go. Habits are not your identity; they are just repeated choices.

If any habit is making you uncomfortable or stopping your growth, remind yourself — you are its master, not its slave. The power to break and remake habits lies within you.

DON’T STAY THE SAME

Every time you say “I want to change” but act the same way, you are actually making a choice — to stay the same. Not changing is not passive — it is an active decision. Intention alone does not bring transformation. Repeating the same mistake over and over turns it into a pattern, not an accident.

So, don’t console yourself with “I tried.” Instead, take charge. One different choice can begin a new chapter. Remember: not changing is choosing – choose wisely.

Courtesy: Rajyoga Meditation Centre, Kingston (meditation courses and counselling are offered free of charge). Get in touch via email: bkmeditation.jam@gmail.com or WhatsApp: 876-853-7848. Follow them on Instagram: rajyoga_meditation_jamaica.